Be Kind to Each Other – Life Instruction #3

I feel motivated today to write about the way we treat other people.

So many times I’ve gotten up in the morning in a good mood, only to be shot down by someone at work who is itching for a fight.  They are looking for a victim because they have pent up anger over their car not start that morning, the kids kept them up that night, or they had fight with their spouse.

One time I simply delivered a package to a boss and the next thing I knew, it was all around the office that I had done something terrible.  In her head she assumed I had an ulterior motive for the delivery, when the simple truth was the reception wasn’t at her desk and the UPS guy gave it to me.

Another scenario that happens is when an individual has old stuff that you trigger.  For example, I was trying to get to know a new employee and asked if she had any children?  I did this because I have a daughter and wanted to see if we had that in common.  But she reacted like she was highly insulted.  My guess is she had regrets over not having children or her parents had been bugging her for years to have kids?

Then there is the new stuff like passing poor treatment on from one person to the next.  I had a good friend who was complaining to me about a lady she’d known for years who over-reacted when she asked her a question that morning.  The lady then lectured her and told her to look up the answer herself.  My friend was furious.  The next thing I knew, about 30 minutes later, my friend pulled the same thing on me.

And finally, similar to the above problem in asking a question, I’d been having an issue with my blog not showing up in the Reader feature so I wrote WordPress on a Support Forum for an answer.  I posted the question a few times over the span of a several weeks waiting for an answer.  I finally received a reply from a WordPress staff person today lecturing me for posting so many times, reblogging, and asking a question that had been answered months ago.

I wrote back that I posted so many times because I didn’t receive a reply, I reblogged months ago because I had been seriously ill and was trying to keep the site up and recently reblogged because I was testing fixes to the Reader problem, and that the previous issue was different.  So you see, sometimes we make negative assumptions about situations and give snappy answers to people, when it’s just are not true.

LIFE INSTRUCTION NO. 3:   Don’t take your stuff out on other people.   Be kind to each other.   Be aware that at times we all lay negative filters (filled with our pent-up feelings) over perfectly innocent situations and pounce on unsuspecting victims.  Stop that!

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Grateful for Simple Pleasures – Instruction #2

Do you remember those special moments in your life when you discover something small and simple but yet profound because it makes your life easier?

I was thinking about this and my list of special discoveries begins with an ergonomic peeler .  Yes, a potato, carrot, zucchini type peeler.  As I grew up, I remember using one of those skinny, metal peelers and often having indentations in my fingers after peelings a bunch of potatoes.  Then one day, I was gifted with an OXO good grip peeler and my life changed.  Now I can peel away without pain and frustration.

Another item that made a difference in my life was discovering down blankets.  I grew up in San Francisco, which is known for it’s cold, windy, foggy days.  Often at night as a child I was cold.  I’d pile on the blankets, and then go to my closet and pile on coats and robes to bring a little warmth.

When I was a young adult, I flew to Germany to meet and travel with a boyfriend who was in the military. While in Deutschland, and staying in quaint little hotels that dotted the Bavarian alps, I discovered down blankets on their beds. Ever since that trip, I’ve purchased fluffy down blankets for my beds and have never been cold at night again.

When you talk about possessions, the first thing that comes to mind is having that big house or fancy car … but great pleasure can be derived from simple items like a peeler or down blanket.

It all depends on your perspective.  It’s just a matter of first opening yourself to try something new instead of continuing to be frustrated or marred by finger indentations or freezing cold, then realizing how its enhanced your life, and finally be grateful.

LIFE INSTRUCTION No. 2:  Be grateful for the simple pleasures and discoveries in your life — whether it’s the smile of a baby or a potato peeler.  It’s when we accumulate a lot of small little positive moments like this that we feel happiness growing in our spirit.

What are your simple pleasures and discoveries?

The First Step in Changing Your Life – Instruction #1

I was listening to a Law of Attraction Radio Network show the other day while traveling on a commuter train.  The tracks were clacking underneath as I sat with ear pods protruding that were connected to my Ipod.

The host Bertrand Dory came on and started talking about a quote that went, When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Bells went off in my head as the words registered as the kind of thing you want to write down quickly so you can paste it to your bathroom mirror to look at daily.

When I got home, I hopped onto the Internet to search for this quote and came upon a 3-1/2 minute video clip from Dr. Wayne Dyer that’s posted on Youtube. He started off by talking about this expression but then related it to something Einstein said that went, “The most fundamental and major decision that you have to make in your life is ‘do I live in a friendly or hostile universe?’ Because if you see the world as hostile and angry, with people wanting to hate and kill each other, then that’s exactly what you will create in your life.”

I agree with Einstein.  I have mostly looked at life as being a “hard and hurtful place,” and have suffered a lot of pain — abuse as a child, divorce,  hostile work environments, weight issues, lost loved ones, and just plain old tragedy.   Then on top of this, you add the negativity of what’s around you like TV news programs that exploit war, politics, and disasters.  No wonder people are depressed!

If I were to come up with LIFE INSTRUCTION NO. 1, it would say “Look at life as a friendly universe.”   Refuse to watch or listen to negative TV programs or negative people in your life and seek out inspiring mentors, books, and CDs.  Forgive and forget all the past wrongs that have been done to you.  And finally, reprogram the way you look at things to be more positive so the things you look at will change.

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