I love this article from Journey to Self Acceptance. It reminds us of the contrast between letting people put their @%#^$#& on us, and our choosing not to accept it and instead be happy in each moment.

JOURNEY TO SELF-ACCEPTANCE

This is the first day of my commitment to my own happiness!  Today I make a declaration to choose to do things that make me happy and to find pleasure in the simple moments in my life.  Even though sometimes I don’t feel I deserve to, I will be happy regardless of my accomplishments (or idleness) and despite all the things I think I should have first.  I can live in a perpetual state of happiness, without conditions or prerequisites.  (Love) and happiness is the key to existence.  I already enjoy being happy.  I choose to smile a lot.  So now I get to seek out and do things that make me happy. 

Of course a major factor in this is project is to stay in the present moment.  It’s easy to experience joy in any given moment.  In fact, it’s the only way some people can experience it.  It happens to them unconsciously in moments…

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7 Traits for Building a Habit of Success


My all time favorite quote is what I posted yesterday as Building a Habit of Success.  It basically warns that if we go through life making resolutions or promises that we don’t keep, we are building a “habit of failure.”

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather build a “habit of success” because every time I say to myself that I’m going to lose weight and cheat a week later or plan to clean the garage but instead sit in front the TV, I feel bad inside.   How about you?

Here are 7 important tips for moving in the direction of success:

  1. Make resolutions – In the article The Resolution Solution: Creating and Keeping your New Year’s Resolutions, the author says the act of making resolutions — that run the gamut from losing weight, starting exercise, stopping smoking and reducing alcohol use — can be valuable opportunities to increase the quality of your life. Scientific research indicates that you are “10 times more likely to change by making a New Year’s resolution compared to non-resolvers with the identical goals and comparable motivation to change.” 
  2. Keep your promises – Draw a line in the sand and say from this point on, I’m going to leave my past failures behind me and start keeping my promises.  To build your record of success, don’t make a promise unless you feel you will keep it. And if you do commit to a decision, keep it no matter what gets in the way.
  3. Clean your house – Researches at Princeton University did a study that concluded “When your environment is cluttered, the chaos restricts your ability to focus.  The clutter also limits your brain’s ability to process information,” as stated in Scientists Find Physical Clutter Negatively Affects Your Ability to Focus, Process Information. In the study, researchers measured the brain’s response to organized and disorganized stimuli and found if you clear up the clutter ”you will be less irritable, more productive, distracted less often, and able to process information better.”
  4. Clear up mental clutter – It’s not only our physical environment that we must clean spick-and-span but we need to make space in our minds.  In A Cluttered Mind from A Simpler Life blog, the author suggests writing everything down so you don’t have to keep track of it in your mind; journal to alleviate thinking about things over-and-over; plan your goals then contemplate one object, word, or thought at a time; dip into your heart by intuitively feeling what you should do next; and release unhelpful thoughts.
  5. Be persistent, consistent and have tenacity – If you’ve ever studied successful people, their roads have not been smooth but littered with ruts, potholes, and barriers. The one thing that sets them apart from the average person is “tenacity,” a stick-to-it-ness that empowers them to surmount obstacles and stay the course. Take Donald Trump for example, he’s filed bankruptcy 4 times, gained and lost businesses and billions of dollars, and he’s been through 4 marriages … yet, the Donald keeps reinventing himself. If an obstacle arises for you, move on, over, or around it and reinvent yourself better!
  6. Stay in the present moment – One of the main stumbling blocks to success is our resistance to change because we are stuck in the past — “He did this to me, so now I don’t want a new relationship.  I was laid off, now no one wants to hire me.”  The past has no power over us unless we let its negativity pervade our thoughts.  Eckhart Tolle advises that we “Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is?  Say ‘yes’ to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
  7. Have an attitude that “nothing is impossible” – Miracles occur everyday — people are cured of cancer, a patient comes out of a coma after years of silence, and a gigantic U.S. Airways airplane lands on the Hudson River intact with all 155 passengers and crew safe.  See the possibilities in life and believe that nothing is impossible!  Your reality is not set in stone, but is formed moment-to-moment by your thoughts, decisions, and beliefs.  Become the architect of your reality and design it successful!

The First Step in Changing Your Life – Instruction #1

I was listening to a Law of Attraction Radio Network show the other day while traveling on a commuter train.  The tracks were clacking underneath as I sat with ear pods protruding that were connected to my Ipod.

The host Bertrand Dory came on and started talking about a quote that went, When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.

Bells went off in my head as the words registered as the kind of thing you want to write down quickly so you can paste it to your bathroom mirror to look at daily.

When I got home, I hopped onto the Internet to search for this quote and came upon a 3-1/2 minute video clip from Dr. Wayne Dyer that’s posted on Youtube. He started off by talking about this expression but then related it to something Einstein said that went, “The most fundamental and major decision that you have to make in your life is ‘do I live in a friendly or hostile universe?’ Because if you see the world as hostile and angry, with people wanting to hate and kill each other, then that’s exactly what you will create in your life.”

I agree with Einstein.  I have mostly looked at life as being a “hard and hurtful place,” and have suffered a lot of pain — abuse as a child, divorce,  hostile work environments, weight issues, lost loved ones, and just plain old tragedy.   Then on top of this, you add the negativity of what’s around you like TV news programs that exploit war, politics, and disasters.  No wonder people are depressed!

If I were to come up with LIFE INSTRUCTION NO. 1, it would say “Look at life as a friendly universe.”   Refuse to watch or listen to negative TV programs or negative people in your life and seek out inspiring mentors, books, and CDs.  Forgive and forget all the past wrongs that have been done to you.  And finally, reprogram the way you look at things to be more positive so the things you look at will change.

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