Be Kind to Each Other – Life Instruction #3

I feel motivated today to write about the way we treat other people.

So many times I’ve gotten up in the morning in a good mood, only to be shot down by someone at work who is itching for a fight.  They are looking for a victim because they have pent up anger over their car not start that morning, the kids kept them up that night, or they had fight with their spouse.

One time I simply delivered a package to a boss and the next thing I knew, it was all around the office that I had done something terrible.  In her head she assumed I had an ulterior motive for the delivery, when the simple truth was the reception wasn’t at her desk and the UPS guy gave it to me.

Another scenario that happens is when an individual has old stuff that you trigger.  For example, I was trying to get to know a new employee and asked if she had any children?  I did this because I have a daughter and wanted to see if we had that in common.  But she reacted like she was highly insulted.  My guess is she had regrets over not having children or her parents had been bugging her for years to have kids?

Then there is the new stuff like passing poor treatment on from one person to the next.  I had a good friend who was complaining to me about a lady she’d known for years who over-reacted when she asked her a question that morning.  The lady then lectured her and told her to look up the answer herself.  My friend was furious.  The next thing I knew, about 30 minutes later, my friend pulled the same thing on me.

And finally, similar to the above problem in asking a question, I’d been having an issue with my blog not showing up in the Reader feature so I wrote WordPress on a Support Forum for an answer.  I posted the question a few times over the span of a several weeks waiting for an answer.  I finally received a reply from a WordPress staff person today lecturing me for posting so many times, reblogging, and asking a question that had been answered months ago.

I wrote back that I posted so many times because I didn’t receive a reply, I reblogged months ago because I had been seriously ill and was trying to keep the site up and recently reblogged because I was testing fixes to the Reader problem, and that the previous issue was different.  So you see, sometimes we make negative assumptions about situations and give snappy answers to people, when it’s just are not true.

LIFE INSTRUCTION NO. 3:   Don’t take your stuff out on other people.   Be kind to each other.   Be aware that at times we all lay negative filters (filled with our pent-up feelings) over perfectly innocent situations and pounce on unsuspecting victims.  Stop that!

Appreciating the Beauty in Life

Sometimes we are in such a hurry that we miss the beauty that surrounds us.  I just thought a tranquil picture of Newport, OR might take you to the present moment, help you take a deep breath, relax, and appreciate all you have in your life.

I completely agree with this article about enlightenment. It talks about our energy being a precious commodity, not to be wasted. I came to this understanding too, that it is possible to let other peoples’ shit roll off your back and let it be theirs as you stay in your own loving and positive frame of mind.

It is difficult to maintain this mindset, but once learned it never leaves you and things affect you less as you grow in spirit. What is around us in our daily life is a make believe play — you can choose to react as scripted or write your own response. Think of your energy as a precious commodity and direct it positively for your own and others good.

Chores. Love. Service.

Three years ago I discovered the secret to life. I was elated and on a high. Nothing could bother me. I felt free and as light as Dandelion seeds completely absent any resistance and taking flight easily whichever way the wind blew. Things that used to infuriate me just didn’t anymore. It simply wasn’t worth my energy to feel rotten and miserable. The secret I learned is that our energy is a precious commodity, even more precious than gems and diamonds.

The euphoria came because it wasn’t just a theory. It was knowledge infused into the very cells of my body. I was a superhero who went out into the world unable to spend my precious energy in any way that was wasteful.

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AquaCure Diary: Final Week, Very Happy

About a month ago I started my AquaCure experiment, where for one month I drank water out of a glass with positive words written on it and said affirmations out loud.  I came up with the idea to improve my health, after seeing Masuro Emoto’s  test of rice and photographs of water crystals and writing about it in How Water is Deeply Connected to Our Individual and Collective Consciousness.

In AquaCure: First Week, Subtle Change I talked about reading a self-help book titled “Why Don’t I do the Things I know are Good for Me?”   This book was refreshing and enlightening as it went to the heart of my issue “self-care.”  I learned that rational thoughts may tell us what would be good for us, but our fatigue and emotions – the need for immediate stress relief or comfort – override our rationality.  In order to develop good self-care, we need to learn new behaviors that cause us to act in our own long-term best interest rather than momentary satisfaction.
The second week AquaCure: Second Week, a Positive Shift I told a story about how a friend went on a non-gluten diet and that inspired me to do the same.  I went on the food plan as a lark, but within days I took it serious because I saw my body and energy shift as I lost the addictive urge to stuff my face with food, my energy became balanced instead of highs and lows, I could think clearer, aches and pains went away, and I lost weight.

And in the third week AquaCure:  Third Week, Loving Gluten-Free Diet I went on to estole the benefits of the non-gluten diet by providing research about gluten’s link to chronic diseases and facts like “Did you know that 1 in 7 people have an intolerance to gluten, a protein in wheat, spelt, rye, barley, oats.”

As an extra dimension to the experiment I even tried different types of water each week – Week 1 was tap water, Week 2 bottled water, Week 3 filtered water, and Week 4 ionized water.

To tell you the honest truth, I couldn’t tell a difference in drinking types of waters, so I think manifestation is more determined on the “quality of your thoughts” rather than “quality of the water.”  My own opinion is focusing on the water glass makes you stop and give more energy to your intention and that was the key — the universe gave me these guided gifts, I listened to my intuition, and then acted on them.  Below are the manifestations:

  1. Led to the self-help book
  2. A friend told me about their gluten-free food plan
  3. And the final manifestation that I haven’t told you about is … a puppy.

Lucy

I have been wanting a dog the past few years and have looked but nothing stuck. That is until a few weeks ago when I stepped into a PetSmart store to look at the latest round of shelter dogs.  Although I wanted an older, trained dog, a little puppy Chiweenie (cross between Chihuahua and Dachshund) stole my heart.  When I held her, she melted into my arms.  And ever since, she and the above manifestations have brought more health, happiness, and joy into my life.

Grateful for Simple Pleasures – Instruction #2

Do you remember those special moments in your life when you discover something small and simple but yet profound because it makes your life easier?

I was thinking about this and my list of special discoveries begins with an ergonomic peeler .  Yes, a potato, carrot, zucchini type peeler.  As I grew up, I remember using one of those skinny, metal peelers and often having indentations in my fingers after peelings a bunch of potatoes.  Then one day, I was gifted with an OXO good grip peeler and my life changed.  Now I can peel away without pain and frustration.

Another item that made a difference in my life was discovering down blankets.  I grew up in San Francisco, which is known for it’s cold, windy, foggy days.  Often at night as a child I was cold.  I’d pile on the blankets, and then go to my closet and pile on coats and robes to bring a little warmth.

When I was a young adult, I flew to Germany to meet and travel with a boyfriend who was in the military. While in Deutschland, and staying in quaint little hotels that dotted the Bavarian alps, I discovered down blankets on their beds. Ever since that trip, I’ve purchased fluffy down blankets for my beds and have never been cold at night again.

When you talk about possessions, the first thing that comes to mind is having that big house or fancy car … but great pleasure can be derived from simple items like a peeler or down blanket.

It all depends on your perspective.  It’s just a matter of first opening yourself to try something new instead of continuing to be frustrated or marred by finger indentations or freezing cold, then realizing how its enhanced your life, and finally be grateful.

LIFE INSTRUCTION No. 2:  Be grateful for the simple pleasures and discoveries in your life — whether it’s the smile of a baby or a potato peeler.  It’s when we accumulate a lot of small little positive moments like this that we feel happiness growing in our spirit.

What are your simple pleasures and discoveries?

7 Traits for Building a Habit of Success


My all time favorite quote is what I posted yesterday as Building a Habit of Success.  It basically warns that if we go through life making resolutions or promises that we don’t keep, we are building a “habit of failure.”

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather build a “habit of success” because every time I say to myself that I’m going to lose weight and cheat a week later or plan to clean the garage but instead sit in front the TV, I feel bad inside.   How about you?

Here are 7 important tips for moving in the direction of success:

  1. Make resolutions – In the article The Resolution Solution: Creating and Keeping your New Year’s Resolutions, the author says the act of making resolutions — that run the gamut from losing weight, starting exercise, stopping smoking and reducing alcohol use — can be valuable opportunities to increase the quality of your life. Scientific research indicates that you are “10 times more likely to change by making a New Year’s resolution compared to non-resolvers with the identical goals and comparable motivation to change.” 
  2. Keep your promises – Draw a line in the sand and say from this point on, I’m going to leave my past failures behind me and start keeping my promises.  To build your record of success, don’t make a promise unless you feel you will keep it. And if you do commit to a decision, keep it no matter what gets in the way.
  3. Clean your house – Researches at Princeton University did a study that concluded “When your environment is cluttered, the chaos restricts your ability to focus.  The clutter also limits your brain’s ability to process information,” as stated in Scientists Find Physical Clutter Negatively Affects Your Ability to Focus, Process Information. In the study, researchers measured the brain’s response to organized and disorganized stimuli and found if you clear up the clutter ”you will be less irritable, more productive, distracted less often, and able to process information better.”
  4. Clear up mental clutter – It’s not only our physical environment that we must clean spick-and-span but we need to make space in our minds.  In A Cluttered Mind from A Simpler Life blog, the author suggests writing everything down so you don’t have to keep track of it in your mind; journal to alleviate thinking about things over-and-over; plan your goals then contemplate one object, word, or thought at a time; dip into your heart by intuitively feeling what you should do next; and release unhelpful thoughts.
  5. Be persistent, consistent and have tenacity – If you’ve ever studied successful people, their roads have not been smooth but littered with ruts, potholes, and barriers. The one thing that sets them apart from the average person is “tenacity,” a stick-to-it-ness that empowers them to surmount obstacles and stay the course. Take Donald Trump for example, he’s filed bankruptcy 4 times, gained and lost businesses and billions of dollars, and he’s been through 4 marriages … yet, the Donald keeps reinventing himself. If an obstacle arises for you, move on, over, or around it and reinvent yourself better!
  6. Stay in the present moment – One of the main stumbling blocks to success is our resistance to change because we are stuck in the past — “He did this to me, so now I don’t want a new relationship.  I was laid off, now no one wants to hire me.”  The past has no power over us unless we let its negativity pervade our thoughts.  Eckhart Tolle advises that we “Always say ‘yes’ to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is?  Say ‘yes’ to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
  7. Have an attitude that “nothing is impossible” – Miracles occur everyday — people are cured of cancer, a patient comes out of a coma after years of silence, and a gigantic U.S. Airways airplane lands on the Hudson River intact with all 155 passengers and crew safe.  See the possibilities in life and believe that nothing is impossible!  Your reality is not set in stone, but is formed moment-to-moment by your thoughts, decisions, and beliefs.  Become the architect of your reality and design it successful!

Moving from Zombieland to Presentville

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(Photo credit: Convenience Store Gourmet)

Do you go through life like a zombie — mindlessly going through your daily routine?  I do!

Here’s a little incident that happened to me last week.  Most of the time, I take a commuter train to my job.  But one day, I missed the window of time to catch the train, so I decided to drive.

Later that day, I got off work and stepped out the door only to find a commuter train pulling up, so I hopped on, settled into a comfy seat and pulled out a newspaper.

About 15 minutes later, I was rocked out of my twilight zone when I suddenly realized my car wasn’t waiting for me at the other end of the tracks … it was back downtown in a parking garage.

I pulled myself together, gathered up my belongings and my pride, and I got off the train to catch one heading in the opposite direction.  At the time, I kinda laughed about it and felt stupid at the same time.

Did you ever notice that the most spaced out people tend to work at Fast Food Restaurants?  It must be something about making the same food over-and-over that puts them into trances.

A Hamburger, fries, and a coke from a fast-foo...

A pet peeve of mine is when you go into the drive-thru lane and order a “cheeseburger with fries and a Coke?”  What happens next is a symptom that the person on the other end of the speaker is not all there, when she replies, “Do you want cheese on that burger?  Did you want a drink?”

You sit there in total frustration, having just told her the answers to those questions.  But she spaced you out … she didn’t hear your words … it didn’t register in her brain.  Instead, she went into her automatic speal.

In an article “Spacing Out Half the Day Makes People Unhappy in Harvard Study,” the author says in the journal Science that “people spend half their waking hours thinking about something other than what they are doing” and a Harvard study showed that “wandering minds tend to lead to unhappiness.”

What’s this all mean?  If we spend half our time residing in negative Lalaland it’s difficult to manifest your heart’s desires, so it’s best to move from Zombieland to Presentville.

To start you on that trip, below are a few quotes as shown on goodread.com from Eckhart Tolle, a Law of Attraction spiritual leader who is one of the biggest proponents of living in the present moment:

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Eckhart Tolle (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“The past has no power over the present moment.” ― Eckhart Tolle

“Make the NOW the primary focus of your life.” ― Eckhart TolleThe Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment

“Worry pretends to be necessary but serves no useful purpose”― Eckhart Tolle

“Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” ― Eckhart Tolle

“Don’t let a mad world tell you that success is anything other than a successful present moment.” ― Eckhart TolleA New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose

“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you will ever have.” ― Eckhart Tolle

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